Well, how are you?
Or, why does it matter? I don't doubt that there are people who sincerely care how I'm doing but I am wondering why it matters. Friends and neighbors have helped me in some amazing ways and millions of small ways and I am so very grateful, but does how I'm doing really matter? Why?
I'm feeling a little volatile lately and starting to think I should come with a hazard placard.
Yes, it matters. As your friend, it matters. I want to know how you are doing so that if the answer is "not well" I can think of something that is within my scope of power to do that maybe, just maybe might brighten your day just a smidge.
ReplyDeleteAs to the hillarious anonymous greeting of "how's it goin'" or "hey, how are you" ...etc...elicited from strangers...there I see your point. No, they don't truly give two hoots or a holler. I test this theory occasionally when I come up with oddball responses of "perplexed" "amused" "distressed" "enraged" "affronted" or any other one word emotion-describing verbiage that accurately describes my mood du jour. No, they don't truly want to know how you are doing.
But I, as your friend, really do.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with Gortday. I became very cynical about people and their motives when I went through a bad depression 16 years ago. Since then, I've been very aware of the words I use and about what others are going through. I genuinely care about how you're doing, and even if I don't happen to ask, you can know I still want to know.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I even care about what a stranger is going through. Life's just tough for everyone.
Someone really needs to take away my ability to phone post while exhausted. For clarification http://justanotherblogbymyself.blogspot.com/2013/04/clarification-rambling-and-update-of.html
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